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PLAYLIST: Sexual Desire (From a Woman’s Perspective)

It’s rare for a woman artist to not be subtle about her desires. Yet, when she chooses to express an openness to her sexual desires that society insofar silences her for, the result is refreshing.

Artists like Beyoncé, Missy Elliot, and Lana del Rey have been critiqued for their sexual lyrics as words like “vile” and “disgusting” are thrown at them from critics and listeners. But what is it about women’s sexual pleasure that is so “gross”?

We rounded up our top 10 songs about female sexual pleasure to delight and encourage female sexuality. Discretion is advised for trigger warnings.

1. “Head” by Lydia Loveless

“’Cause I know the sooner I go to sleep the sooner I can dream,
Well maybe if I get lucky tonight you’ll be there waitin’,
Ready for me,
So don’t stop get in my bed, don’t stop getting undressed,
Don’t stop get in my bed,
Don’t stop giving me head.”

What she says about the song: “We thought it would be really funny to write a song about oral sex,” said the 23-year-old Loveless to ELLE.

2. “Blow” by Beyoncé

“(Keep me coming, keep me going), keep me coming, keep me going,
(Keep me humming, keep me moaning), keep me humming, keep me moaning,
(Non-stop love until the morning), Non-stop love until the morning,
(Non-stop screaming, freakin’, blowin’) Blow-o-o,

Can you eat my skittles,
It’s the sweetest in the middle,
Pink is the flavor,
Solve the riddle.”

What the critics say: ‘My view would be that the whole album should be banned. Even with age ratings it would still circulate round the playground and it’s sheer exploitation,’ said one critic to The Daily Mail.

3. “Pu$$y” by Iggy azalea


“Iggy Iggy pussy illy,
Wetter than the Amazon,
Taste this kitty,
Silly Billy poppin’ pilly’s,
Smoke it like a swisher,
Lick this philly,
Mold ‘em ah! Soak ‘em ah!
Hook ‘em like crack, after shock,
Molten ah! Lava drop,
This should be outlawed, call me Pac,
(Pu$$y pu$$y),
The illest on the planet,
Better play ya cards right Mr. Gambit,
If you wanna hang here, ain’t no Hammock,
Never, no better, law should ban it.”

What she says about the song and her sexual lyrics: “So much of what I do that’s controversial in America wouldn’t be a big deal back home. America is a highly sexualized society but people are afraid to admit what they like,” she explained to “When people tell me that I have to be sexy that’s demeaning, not powerful…to a lot of people, a powerful, sexy woman is vulgar. When I first came out [as a music artist] people said, ‘She only raps about her vagina.’ I’m not a vagina rapper! [Laughs]. I talk about many other things.”

4. “212” by Azealia Banks

“Sit in that lunch if you’re treatin’
Kick it with the bitch who comes from Parisian
She know where I get mine from and the season
Now she wanna lick my plum in the evenin’
And fit that tongue tongue d-deep in”

What critics say about the song: “My mom is pretty crass. She does go, ‘Azealia, does every song have to be about sex?’ I’m like, ‘Maybe?’ [laughs filthily] But no, every song won’t be. But some will.”

As told to GQ

5. “Cola” by Lana Del Rey

“My pussy tastes like Pepsi-Cola,
My eyes are wide like cherry pies.
I gots a taste for men who’re older
It’s always been, so it’s no surprise.

Ah, he’s in the sky with diamonds and he’s making me crazy (I come alive, alive)
All he wants to do is party with his pretty baby.”

What she says about the song: She claims the song was written about her then-boyfriend’s experiences with her lady parts: “That’s just what he says!” she told But did she have any reservations about the track? “Well, I didn’t but everyone around me did. They just thought it was really weird — nothing new here. For me that song was just so cool. Like, the guys I got to play electric guitars… and you know, the amazing surf sounds on it. And I love the way the chorus opens up and has tropical undertones. For me, the vibe of it is so good. I love it.”

6. “Oh My God” by P!nk featuring Peaches

“I understand all
Now climb my sugar walls
Problem solved it’s dissolved
with the solvent known as spit
Lickity lick not so quick it’s a
Slick ride make my mink slide
‘Cause were all pink inside”

What she says about promoting the album in which the song is from: She told the Irish Times that making the album was “an awful time.” She felt as if she exploited by the industry: “I was walking out of half my interviews crying. I just felt they were putting a quarter in the slot to watch the monkey dance.”

7. “Woohoo” by Christina Aguilera featuring Nicki Minaj‬‬‬‬

“You know you really wanna (hey), wanna taste my,
You know you wanna get a peek wanna see my,
You know you wanna put your lips where my hips are,
Kiss on my (woohoo) all over my (woohoo),
All the boys think it’s cake when they taste my (woohoo),
You don’t even need a plate, just your face Ha!
Licky-licky yum-yum what a great guy,
Now kiss on my (woohoo) all over my (woohoo),
Kiss on my, all over my…”

What she says about the album in which the song is from: “I get off on working with creative energy,” Aguilera said to Billboard magazine. “That’s when I’m most at home and feel happiest. And all these people brought about new sides of me. It was a big collaboration-fest, and it felt so good and rewarding in the end, because I was just so happy with the work and the new territories that I ventured out to.”

8. “Raspberry Swirl” by Tori Amos

“If you want inside her,
Boy you better make her raspberry swirl.”

What she says about the song: “The animus in me is Raspberry Swirl, I’m in love with my women friends, but I just don’t eat pussy. But I’m in love with them. If I had a different sensibility, then you know I think I could, you know, really fulfill someone down there, where a lot of men in their lives don’t. And eating pussy is a metaphor, too – it’s about crawling in there, being with their juices, really being with them.”

9. “Work It” by Missy Elliott

“I’d like to get to know ya so I could show ya,
Put the pussy on ya like I told ya,
Gimme all your numbers so I could phone ya,
Your girl actin’? stank then call me over,
Not on the bed, lay me on your sofa,
Phone before you come, I need to shave my chocha,
You do or you don’t or you will or won’t ya,
Go downtown and eat it like a vulture,
See my hips and my tips, don’t ya,
See my ass and my lips, don’t ya,
Lost a few pounds on my waist for ya,
This the kinda beat that go ra-ta-ta-ta,
Sex me so good I say blah-blah-blah,
Work it, I need a glass of water,
Boy, oh, boy, it’s good to know ya.”

What the critics say: Missy Elliot is described as “turn[ing] the tables on male rappers, taking charge of the sex game, matching their lewdest, rudest rhymes, and also featuring the most notorious backmasked vocal of the year.”

Another critic wrote, “The lyrics are unbelievably blunt, and far too obscene for a family newspaper. You’ll have to turn to your children’s favorite station to hear them. How can this trash not trickle down to the kids who love listening to the radio and watching MTV?”

10. “My Neck, My Back” by Khia

“Lick it good suck this pussy just like you should,
Right now lick it, good, suck this pussy, just like you should,
My neck, my back, lick my pussy and my crack”

What she says about the song: “I guess the world is just nasty and freaky like that,” she said to MTV. “It’s not even my favorite song, and I was kind of surprised that’s the song that everybody jumped on. … That song is just nothing compared to my other music. It’s like, ‘That’s what the world is about today,’ so hey, it works for me. It just spread.”

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Written by Alissa Medina

Alissa Medina's love of online publications led to her spearhead Fembot. A decade ago, Fembot was something she created as a teen (then called Reasons to be Beautiful after the grunge band Hole.) Now, with three degrees under her belt from UC Riverside and NYU, Alissa plans to expand her academic feminism to publication writing.

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